The power of your thoughts is very strong and what you think on a regular basis becomes how you act. The power of thinking (self-talk) is a big part of learning to overcome social anxiety.
Make sure to catch your irrational beliefs and move gently away from them by telling yourself the truth. No fighting, no battling, no struggling. Cognitive-behavioral therapy for social anxiety always moves forward in a calm, gentle way and always follows the "one step at a time" rule. It should always be flexible, but structured. You are only taking one small step at a time. That's it.
It helps greatly to be in a CBT group with an experienced therapist. If you find yourself reading over this news section and this website in general, you must be motivated. Keep in mind that our doors are open to people from other states. We have had people in our social anxiety groups who have moved here (temporarily) to overcome social anxiety.