Because of our anxiety, our faces may "freeze," we may be unable to smile, and we tend to be too shy and inhibited. Other people see this, incorrectly, as being unfriendly, aloof, and sometimes even arrogant. They read our faces and evaluate us negatively because they cannot see inside us. They cannot see our feelings or read our thoughts. They cannot tell we have anxiety.
They judge us on how we act and while we still have social anxiety, we usually act unfriendly or standoffish even though we are really not like that. It is important to remember that they are not reacting negatively to us as individuals but to how we are behaving at that specific time. The Overcoming Social Anxiety Step by Step audio therapy goes into detail about the solution to this problem and how to gently make it work so that people begin to see the real you.